In January 2013, I listed a bunch of quotes I read in a magazine. Here they are again, but with added notes from how my thoughts have changed since then:
- To improve your rapport with the person you are talking to, synch your body language to that person for 30 seconds.
How I feel now: Rapport is not something you *will* into existence by some mechanical movements.
- Look in the mirror and say "Great!" in as many different ways as you can until you laugh. (I tried this, I really did laugh and it didn't take long.)
How I feel now: Still agree.
- "Mastery" is not genius. It is a function of concentration and time. (This great quote is corroborated by Malcolm Gladwell in one of his books, where he says that "world class talent" is the accumulation of 10,000 hours of practice in one skill, and he goes on to show why Mozart, Bill Gates (euch, sorry to put those two together but the author did that), The Beatles and others achieved 10,000 hours in a time when no one else did.
How I feel now: I actually never quote Malcolm Gladwell anymore, ha. He is a kind of supposed "thought leader" who says interesting things but they are just musings of a philosopher rather than things to live by or "parrot" in random conversation. The word "mastery" has so many meanings that whether it is genius or not, whether it is concentration or not, whether it is time or not...I don't dwell on it, strive for it, or question it. I just live.
- Focus on 5 to 10 years down the line, when benefits are reaped.
How I feel now: NO. N. O. NO. Focus on today. That is all.
- Start copying the greats in your field of interest. You'll get a better sense of how they think and create.
How I feel now: No, don't copy anyone. Greats? What makes them great? Greatness is a social construct. Just live your life, make choices, see the results, continue to live. Put "greats" less and less in your mind until you are free of them. They may be crutches for a time in your life, sure, but there comes a time to come into your own.
- Start an "interesting people" fund. Pay for lunch and coffee with people you find interesting.
How I feel now: Still agree.
- Think -- who are 10 people you'd reach out to if you got laid off? Reach out to them now, when you don't need anything.
How I feel now: This presupposes that you will get laid off. This presupposes that getting laid off is a bad thing. This presupposes a lot of things, and it is all built on fear! Reach out to them not because of fear of getting laid off and needing them for a buck or a sofa to sleep on. Reach out because your hand moved to the phone to call them without questioning your motive or thoughts about a future that hasn't even come yet. Again, live for today and your feelings today. "I want to call him/her to hang out." Bam. That's it. Laid off?!?! Wha...?!?!
- Say yes to everything for one day.
How I feel now: No way. What the heck?! HAHA!
- Appeal to people from the angle of their own self interest.
How I feel now: NO, what is this? This is awful. Who wrote these quotes and why did I post them here only 2 years ago?? Shame on myself.
- Be suspicious of "free" or "cheap", but use it to your advantage.
How I feel now: WHAT?! "Use it to your advantage?!" Was this written by some cold heartless marketing "guru" who has no friends and a "kick me" stuck on his back?!
- Concentrate on a single outlet of power -- don't dilute your strength!
How I feel now: NO. It's not diluting your strength, it's diversifying your strengths. The corporations of the world have us specializing in typing the letter "E" but who can type all 26 letters anymore? The more you can do yourself, the more you are a unique creature that creates your own kind of beauty. Yes, stop diversifying at the point where you need to defer to another expert, but learn what your limits are, diversify until it hurts, and then diversify a bit more before scaling back a bit. No pain no gain. Are you a one-outlet wall socket or a power strip with surge protection?! Ha!
That's all for today, stay sharp lads and ladies.